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When you like someone, you naturally want to be closer to him. Unfortunately, liking someone can also make you feel self-conscious about every little thing and make it easy to get flustered about little things like hugs. Hugs are great, though, and needn’t be a source of anxiety.

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Hugging Hello and Goodbye

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    Smile and look him in the eyes first. A hug shouldn’t come out of nowhere. Give him friendly, flirty physical cues to let him know that you care and you want to be close to him.[1]

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    Wrap your arms around him. Where you put your arms is up to you and depends on his height, your height, and each of your personal hugging preferences. You might want to try working in some casual caresses if it feels appropriate.[2]

    • You can put both arms around his neck and keep one palm gently on the nape of his neck.[3]
    • If your arms are around his neck, run your fingers softly through the hair at the base of his neck.
    • If your arms are around his torso, rub his back gently.
    • A behind-the-back hug can also be a good way to hug a guy hello. This sort of hug says, “you are mine,” so it should be reserved for someone you’re already close to. Slip your hands under his arms from behind, and reach up to hold his shoulders tightly, pressing yourself against him. Rest your face against his back or shoulder and hold him firmly but gently (it’s a hug, not a wrestling hold).

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    Hold it for a moment. A big part of what separates friendly hugs from romantic hugs is the amount of time you spend in each other’s arms.[4] Spend a moment enjoying the feeling of his body against yours. Take a deep breath, and let it out with a slight sigh.[5]

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    Squeeze and let go. Make eye contact and smile again as you break apart. If you are feeling especially affectionate, you might wrap your fingers in his as you separate, and give him a flirty look as you swing your arm gently for a moment before dropping his hand.[6]

    • A common way to signify the end of a hug is to give someone’s back a quick rub or pat.
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    Make eye contact first. If the two of you are having an intimate moment, your eyes will communicate a lot about how you are feeling. Smile at him and move your body closer.

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    Draw him close to you. If you are holding hands, you can pull him near. You might also place a hand on his hip or gently tug his shirt.

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    Wait for it. Let the anticipation build for a moment, your body lightly touching his. Look at his face to gauge how he is feeling.[7] Maybe take his hand, or put a hand on his waist.

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    Wrap your arms around him firmly. Breathe, and relax into his body. You might lean your head against his chest or shoulder, or move one of your hands down to hold one of his. Stay in this position for a while, enjoying the closeness. Feel his breathing. Listen for his heartbeat. Relax into the moment. Don’t feel any pressure to speak—your body will speak for you.[8]

    • It’s up to you whether or not to rub his back with your hands. A gentle back rub can feel nice, but if you want to comfort someone or make him feel safe, sometimes it’s best just to hold him.
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    Take a deep breath and exhale when you are ready to break the hug. Squeeze him gently, and lean back. Grab his hand as you break apart, and give that a light squeeze as well before letting go. Look into his eyes, and give him your most affectionate, trusting smile.

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    Set the mood first. A passionate hug shouldn’t come out of nowhere. Flirt with him first. Make it clear you are interested in him.

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    Look into his eyes and pull him towards you. You can do this by taking his hand, putting an arm around his waist, or tugging the front of his shirt. Pull his hips in to your hips, run your hand over his back, and give him a sexy smile.

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    Press yourself against him. Wrap your arms around him and pull him even closer. Notice the physical sensation of being so close. Smell him. Feel his arms around you. Enjoy yourself.

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    Show him you enjoy being close to him. Run a hand through his hair, or across his back. Make a soft, “mmm” sound. If you're enjoying the hug, he should be able to sense it.[9]

    • A quick back rub is not sensual. Move your hands slowly, exploring his body.
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    Do what feels right. Maybe a hug is all the passion you’re up to right now, maybe not. Often a passionate hug is leading to more, but it doesn’t have to.

    • If you want to turn the hug into a kiss, lean your torso back so your hips are still pressed together, look him in the eyes, and go for it.[10]
    • If you want to end the hug, squeeze him gently, and lean back. Grab his hand as you break apart, and give it a light squeeze before letting go. Look into his eyes, and give him a mischievous smile as you break away.
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    I like a guy and he knows it. He hugs me always while meeting and leaving. I don't know how to take this further. What should I do?

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    The main difference between a friendly hug and a romantic one is the time spent hugging. Once he's hugging you, tighten your grip to signal you don't want it to end just yet. There are many flirting techniques you can use to see if he likes you back. Stop talking abruptly, look him in the eye and lean into him ever so slightly. Alternatively, you could just ask him how he feels, tell him how you feel, or ask for a hug in between the hello and goodbye hug.

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    We're more than friends, but not yet lovers. How do I hug him?

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    There are lots of different ways, the way I started my first hug it was more of a "just friends" hug even though we totally liked each other. They get more intimate as you go. Just act naturally, you'll know what to do.

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    Realizing you are under the influence is a good start. Try to find out exactly what or who is being a negative influence, then avoid it.

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      • Extreme height differences can make hugging a more daunting process, but you don’t need to overthink it. If you and the guy you are hugging are close enough in height, rest your head against his shoulder. If he is significantly taller than you, rest your head against his chest. If you are taller than he is, dip your head to be closer to his; any placement that increases the amount of body-to-body contact is good, but be sure to avoid making him feel tiny by resting your chin on the top of his head.

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      If you want to romantically hug a guy, start by making eye contact and smiling to let him know you want to be physically close to him. Then, wrap your arms around his neck, torso, or back, depending on the height difference between the two of you. Don’t let go of him right away—the key to making the hug romantic is holding onto him for a few moments so you both can enjoy the physical closeness. After a few moments have passed, let out a small sigh before squeezing him gently and releasing your embrace. To learn more, including how to turn the hug into a kiss, read on!

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      3 Ways to Romantically Hug a Guy - wikiHow? ›

      Pressing your chest into his is considered a "heart to heart" hug. If you're the same height as him, you might rest your head on his shoulder. If you're shorter, turn so that you rest your cheek on his chest. If you're taller, try to lower your head so he can see you better and feel like he is in reach to kiss you.

      What is the most attractive way to hug a guy? ›

      You can put both arms around his neck and keep one palm gently on the nape of his neck. If your arms are around his neck, run your fingers softly through the hair at the base of his neck. If your arms are around his torso, rub his back gently. A behind-the-back hug can also be a good way to hug a guy hello.

      What type of hugs do guys like? ›

      The 'Grasp On Waist' Hug

      If you ask us, “what types of hugs do guys like the most, " here is your answer! This kind of intimate hug suggests that you share a very close bond with your partner where there is love, trust, and lots of romance. It is a beautiful way of spicing things between you and your partner.

      Where do you touch a guy while hugging to turn him on? ›

      7 pleasure spots every guy wants you to touch
      • 01/8​7 pleasure spots every guy wants you to touch. <p>Ladies, here's how you can step up your game of seduction to next level! ...
      • 02/8Nape. ...
      • 03/8​Back of the ears. ...
      • 04/8​Butt. ...
      • 05/8​Inner thighs. ...
      • 06/8​Perineum. ...
      • 07/8​Nipples. ...
      • 08/8​Feet.
      Jun 19, 2017

      How do you tell by a hug if a guy likes you? ›

      Generally, the lower the hands, the higher the physical attraction. If their arms encircle your waist and they press their hands against your lower back, that might be a romantic hug—especially if they draw your lower body in closer to theirs.

      When a man initiates a hug? ›

      If a guy initiates a hug goodbye, whether a partner or a friend, especially after you have been hanging out for a while, it means that he actually loved that time with you. The hug is a sign that he wants some affectionate, physical touch before parting ways.

      How do you give a man butterflies? ›

      If your husband needs a bit of a nudge, here are some small ways to give the him butterflies he had when you were dating:
      1. Take him on a date. ...
      2. Cook together. ...
      3. Do something active outside together. ...
      4. Rub his back. ...
      5. Give him a framed picture of the two of you. ...
      6. Say thank you. ...
      7. Connect with him emotionally. ...
      8. Take a road trip.

      Which hug is most intimate? ›

      A close, full-body embrace, with eye contact--that's what an Intimate Hug is. The eye contact takes this type of hug to a new level, because it is clearly about more than just physical touch. If you are experiencing hugs like these, it means you really have something special going on.

      What goes through a guy's mind when hugging? ›

      Here are different thoughts men have… 'I love you', 'She's more tender today', 'Let's hold for eternity', 'I am god damn lucky', 'I think I should kiss her now', 'Don't leave me ever', 'I am going to make you happy now'.

      Do men appreciate hugs? ›

      In plain language: Men often feel most loved by the women in their lives when their partners hug them, kiss them, smile at them, and explicitly offer gratitude, praise, and words of affection. Men also feel loved and connected through sexuality, often to a greater degree than women do.

      How long should you hug a guy? ›

      Psychologists in London claim they have cracked the code on the ideal embrace, saying hugs should last between five and 10 seconds. According to researchers at Goldsmiths university, longer hugs were found to provide an immediate pleasure boost compared to shorter ones (lasting just one second).

      How do you touch a man emotionally? ›

      Just gently touch his elbow to show him affection and to break the touch barrier. If your hand lingers, it'll look more intimate, but a quick pat on the elbow will just show him that you care—and can lead to something more.

      Why do guys rub your back when they hug you? ›

      This affectionate gesture signifies that your guy cares deeply about you. "The back is a very vulnerable part of the body," Wood says. "You can't see your back, so being touched there can be startling." Softly rubbing you on such an exposed zone shows that he wants to nurture and protect you.

      How do you know if someone wants to hug you? ›

      People who are natural huggers and/or who feel friendly toward you will often prefer to greet you with a hug instead of a handshake. When someone wants to hug, they will approach you with their arms open and their torso facing you in preparation for the embrace.

      How do you know if a hug is more than a friendly? ›

      A romantic hug has one person leaning their head on or against the other person, and can also involve the head, or face of one person nuzzling into the neck or chest of the other. Needless to say, a romantic hug lasts for a much longer time than a platonic hug.

      Is he attracted to me or just being nice? ›

      If he's just nice, he might listen to you, but his eyes will probably be elsewhere. But a guy giving true, prolonged, and frequent eye contact is a clear sign that the guy is interested in you romantically. Increased eye contact doesn't look like staring. He won't make you uncomfortable with his gaze.

      Why do I feel like I want to hug him? ›

      Being hugged uplifts our mood. If you are feeling isolated or are going through a rough time, a hug releases endorphins. Endorphins are the body's natural pain relievers. These neurotransmitters increase our feelings of pleasure.

      How do you tell if a guy likes you but is hiding it? ›

      10 Signs That Someone Likes You But Is Hiding It
      1. They may act a bit awkward around you. Who doesn't get a bit tongue-tied around a crush? ...
      2. They compliment you often. ...
      3. They get a little jealous. ...
      4. They ask questions. ...
      5. They remember the details. ...
      6. They want to spend time with you. ...
      7. They listen. ...
      8. They lean in when you talk.
      Mar 24, 2023

      Does hugging increase attraction? ›

      Oxytocin has a remarkable effect on the brain, quieting background noise and allowing people to tune in to each other, boosting bonding and feelings of attraction between partners.

      How does hugging a guy feel? ›

      Hugs Make Him Feel Loved

      That's why it's such a great way to make a man feel loved. At the end of the day, a hug is a sign of affection, even if you're “just friends” right now. Now, most girls don't run around hugging every man they see… So when you hug a guy, he feels loved and adored.

      How do you tell if it was a romantic hug? ›

      A romantic hug includes a lot of closeness and touching. This hug would include, not a pat on the back, but a rub. This may also be a lower touch than would be appropriate for a platonic friendship. Also, during a romantic hug, your faces usually press together.

      Can a hug turn a man on? ›

      You may even find your man finding excuses to touch you. He makes sure to hug you when you both meet (but the hug lasts a little longer than usual). So, the answer to the question: “do guys get turned on from hugs?” is a big yes.

      How do you know if a guy is into you? ›

      22 Subtle Signs A Guy Likes You, From Dating Experts
      1. He leans toward you during conversation.
      2. He angles his body toward you in the room.
      3. He finds small ways to compliment you.
      4. He makes eye contact.
      5. He steals a glance at you.
      6. He singles you out in a group.
      7. He seems drawn to you in the room.
      Nov 26, 2021

      How do you tell if someone is falling for you? ›

      They show empathy — in good times and bad

      “Someone in love will care about your feelings and your well-being,” Dr. Flores said. “If he or she is able to show empathy or is upset when you are, not only do they have your back, but they also probably have strong feelings for you.”

      How do I make him feel special? ›

      9 Ways To Make Your Significant Other Feel Special
      1. Show your appreciation. ...
      2. Tell them 'I love you' throughout the day. ...
      3. It's in the little things. ...
      4. Try to do at least one nice thing for your partner every day. ...
      5. Give them your undivided attention. ...
      6. Tell them how attracted you are to them.

      How to make a boy like you? ›

      Here are some tips and tricks from relationship and matchmaking experts that can help you get a man to focus his attention on you.
      1. Smile. TODAY. ...
      2. Don't hide in the corner. ...
      3. Ask for his help. ...
      4. Talk about your hobbies. ...
      5. Don't dress for your girlfriends. ...
      6. Look him in the eye. ...
      7. Avoid the obvious. ...
      8. Go out alone or with one other friend.
      Jul 20, 2016

      Do guys get hard when they hug you? ›

      Almost any stimulus, physical or mental, can do it. A hug, especially from someone whom the guy is attracted to, can absolutely get him hard.

      When a guy opens his arms to hug you? ›

      He's being affectionate.

      Whether you're platonic pals or something more, he could just want to show you he cares about you—nothing more to it! A hug could be his way to show he likes you and wants you to feel special. Actually, studies indicate that the more hugs we get a day, the happier we are.

      When a guy kisses your head while hugging? ›

      He wants to protect you from anything bad

      A forehead kiss does have lot many meaning to it, but one of the biggest signs of this type of a kiss is that your man is protective of you. If he hugs you tight and kisses your forehead, it means that he wants to tell and show the world, that you are only his.

      Do men crave hugs? ›

      However, men seek physical closeness just as much as women do, and many men like the sensation of being snuggled. A good cuddle is comfortable, relaxing, and provides a chance to be simple. So yes, while every man is different, most men enjoy feeling close to someone in the form of being held.

      When a guy wants to hug you tight? ›

      A tight hug from a man also indicates his feeling towards you. In other words, he feels a strong will to protect and comfort you. The embrace is reassuring and lets the girl know he is committed to her.

      Do guys get turned on when you hug them? ›

      You may even find your man finding excuses to touch you. He makes sure to hug you when you both meet (but the hug lasts a little longer than usual). So, the answer to the question: “do guys get turned on from hugs?” is a big yes.

      What do guys feel when a girl hugs them? ›

      And most likely we don't think much but just enjoy the feeling of being loved and given a chance to love them. Men think about how lucky they are to have the woman they are hugging, in their life. I love hugs!

      How do you tell a guy likes you by his hug? ›

      Generally, the lower the hands, the higher the physical attraction. If their arms encircle your waist and they press their hands against your lower back, that might be a romantic hug—especially if they draw your lower body in closer to theirs.

      How do you tell if he's physically attracted to you? ›

      20+ Signs a Guy is Attracted to You
      • 1 He makes eye contact with you.
      • 2 He smiles around you a lot.
      • 3 He mimics your body language.
      • 4 He makes physical contact with you.
      • 5 He leans in toward you.
      • 6 He fidgets or looks nervous around you.
      • 7 He blushes or looks sweaty around you.
      • 8 He likes all your posts on social media.

      How do you tell if he finds you attractive? ›

      1. He'll serve you an eyebrow flash. ...
      2. His lips part. ...
      3. His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens." ...
      4. He'll try to attract your attention. ...
      5. He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. ...
      6. He'll smooth or mess up his hair. ...
      7. His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. ...
      8. He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up.
      Mar 5, 2018

      What happens when you hug a man? ›

      When we touch – cuddle, hug, or holding hands – our bodies release “feel good” hormones. These hormones include oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin. Once the hormones are released into our bodies we experience feelings of happiness, relaxation, improve mood, and lower levels of depression.

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